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What The Divorce Revolution Has Meant For Kids July 31, 2012

Filed under: Children And Divorce — Family Innocence @ 7:40 pm

But what did the 1970s divorce boom mean for the kids? ” by Sasha Aslanian

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=122127796

 

who is the aggressor ? July 29, 2012

Filed under: Domestic Violence — Family Innocence @ 4:50 pm

DURHAM, N.H. — A 32-nation study of violence against dating partners by university partners found that about a third had been violent, and most incidents of partner violence involve violence by both the man and woman, according to Murray Straus, founder and co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire. The second largest category was couples where the female partner was the only one to carry about physical attacks, not the male partner

Source : Murray Straus, founder and co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire

http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/ID16.pdf

 

interesting info.. July 28, 2012

Filed under: Divorce And Society,Divorce Industry — Family Innocence @ 10:11 pm

http://stolenvows.com/  …website is to sell a book  written by a former mediator ,I certainly recommend the book but on the left are links to articles and several free chapters..Chapter 3 on ‘California’s  Vision’ is very informative..

“Designed by those who would benefit most, no-fault divorce laws were rolled out across the country over thirty years ago. Wedding day promises lost all meaning when the newly-coined standard — Irretrievable Breakdown — replaced former ‘grounds’ for divorce. Within fifteen years each state had its own unique ‘no-fault’ language but the results were virtually the same when couples got to court. The judge was empowered to ‘force’ a divorce on an unwitting spouse and then divide up the family belongings — including the children. Lawyers used unscrupulous tactics to crush any lingering affection in order to deliver the final product — divorce. Capitalizing on the nation’s growing misery, a profitable Divorce Industry arose and wiped away any lingering hope that was embodied in the original cornerstone of the divorce reform movement — the ‘Marriage Hospital’ that could attend to the Family Court ‘casualties’ and enhance opportunities for reconciliation….”  :from  Judy Parejko

 

family advocacy

Filed under: Uncategorized — Family Innocence @ 10:01 pm

I encourage all family advocates to not just represent the project in meetings or sessions with clients but in everyday life …learn all you can about divorce ,its causes and how it effects all involved ,learn about the laws  ,the divorce industry ,social , economic  and political aspects ,be a knowledgeable example and spokesperson..

 

Family Innocence Advocate Training July 26, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — Family Innocence @ 3:24 pm

A reminder : Family Advocate Training

Saturday, July 28, 2012
8:30 AM – 3:30 PM
Stillwater MN
 Registration due July 24, 2012 

 

Government is part of the divorce machine..

Filed under: Divorce Industry — Family Innocence @ 3:00 pm

“Despite pieties to the contrary, no government has a self-interest in reversing the growth of single-parent homes. “I oversee 65 different social programs at a cost of nearly $47 billion dollars each year,” writes Dr. Horn. “Go down the list of these programs – child welfare, child support enforcement, programs for runaway youth, anti-poverty programs – the need for each of these programs is either created or exacerbated by the breakup of families and marriages.” The unstated corollary is that the administrators of these programs have a stake in those breakups. They also command billions to break them up.”…: Stephen Baskerville

 

Thought for Today

Filed under: Uncategorized — Family Innocence @ 2:52 pm

A little history of government’s involvement in the marriage business..and something to consider

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/26/opinion/26coontz.html?_r=1

 

Today’s Thought July 23, 2012

Filed under: Today's Thought — Family Innocence @ 7:54 pm

An interesting read on the effects of fatherlessness on kids : http://ancpr.com/effects_of_fatherlessness_on_chi.htm

 

Today’s thought July 21, 2012

Filed under: Today's Thought — Family Innocence @ 10:29 pm

When you get right down to it, the courts are simply ill equipped to handle custody cases, says attorney Bernard Clair, echoing the sentiment of many attorneys and judges. “The dirty little secret of our profession is that custody decisions and the subtle and textured levels of parental relationships were never meant to be part of our legal system,” he says. “Our laws are based on land deals, arguing over property lines, how to transfer wealth. Our system is at a real loss when dealing with the subtleties of families—what goes on in the bedroom, how people raise their children.” Making matters even more challenging, the parties involved in this critical decision-making process have limitations. “Judges are pressed for time, while mental health professionals can’t agree on what the ‘best interests of the child’ even are,” adds Clair. “Lawyers are hardwired to be adversarial. And we’re asking these opposing forces to decide the all-important elements of custody.” : Bernard Clair

 

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Filed under: Uncategorized — Family Innocence @ 10:19 pm

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